Today’s speaker was amazing! I was surprised to learn that
instead of helping people by doing things for them I have been making them fell
worse. And although it will be hard I will no longer run to the rescue and save
someone, but instead I will help them to find ways to solve their own problems
and guide them in their choices. I also
learned that by not taking care of my needs first I will eventually begin to
resent my job.
I think it is particularly hard as women not to want to run to the rescue. If someone is upset, I want to cheer them up. If someone is crying, I want to bring comfort. Maybe it is the nurturing, mothering side of us that makes it so irresistible to want to render aid to distressed humanity. Stepping back and letting people handle things themselves is hard to do, but like all things, the more we step back, the easier it will be to step back the next time.
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I think you found a great compromise - you can still help people by helping them help themselves. It's like the old fishing saying - feeding a man a fish only feeds him for a day; giving him a fishing pole and teaching him to fish can feed him for a lifetime.
ReplyDeleteIt is so hard to not try to "fix" everything when we have a giving heart.When she said "that if we do everything for someone, we could be doing more harm than good" I had never thought of it like that.Plus we do get burnt out in the process.
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